For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1
For some, being single is a lonely, desperate and sad way of living. That’s how I used to feel about being single. I have been divorced for seven years. But, it wasn’t until recently that I’ve accepted what it means to be single. Our culture tells us that we should be married. At minimum, we should have someone “special” in our lives. The world tends to see single people as lonely, desperate, broken, dysfunctional, or less than whole. We shouldn’t care what society thinks.
We do not dare to compare ourselves with those who use themselves to measure themselves and they judge themselves by what they themselves are. This shows that they know nothing. 2 Corinthians 10:12
Our concern should be centered on what God wants for us.
Seek first God’s kingdom and what God wants. Then all your other needs will be met as well. Matthew 6:33
Our season of singleness is a beautiful gift from God. What God withholds from us can be our greatest gift. Only God knows when we are ready to meet our spouse that He has chosen for us. His timing is perfect.
But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
So, what are we to do while we wait?
Here is a list of some things to do while we are in our Season of Singleness.
- Learn Contentment God will always give us what we need. We can focus on increasing our trust and broadening our knowledge that God knows what is best for us, that He is providing for us and that He is protecting us.
- Learn to Live During our season of singleness we should use our free time and freedom from additional commitments to grow closer to God. Become planted in a church. Join a Bible study group. Serve others by finding somewhere to volunteer or ways to mentor others. Practice spiritual discipline by developing spiritual habits. These could include reading the Bible, making prayer a practice and learning to apply the character of Christ to our lives.
- Cultivate a Solid Support System We need to develop good, strong friendships and learn to let go of toxic relationships. This is a great time to focus on family and getting to know our loved ones better.
- Learn Humility Stop looking and reaching outside of yourself and start looking and reaching within yourself. Stop viewing everyone in the room as a possible candidate. For this leads to lust. Stop looking for those that may be interested in you. For this leads to being prideful. Start viewing people with the value they deserve as they too are created in God’s image. This leads to being respectful.
- Prepare Yourself During your season of singleness, prepare yourself to be the best you that is possible. Begin exercising and develop better eating habits. Map out short and long term goals. Master your finances and budget. Take time to become more educated.
- Give all Glory to God Acknowledge His greatness and give Him honor through praise and worship. Recognize His essence of glory. Listen to and agree with Him. Submit to Him and obey Him.
For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory forever. Amen. Romans 11:36
Being a woman, I have gotten caught up in “waiting for my Boaz”. I’ve caught myself wasting valuable resources searching for the “one”. This includes money, time, energy, thoughts and emotions. All single women should really study the book of Ruth. We should all strive to live our Season of Singleness as Ruth did. Her focus wasn’t on searching or seeking Boaz. Her focus was on glorifying God. She was content. She was living her life. She was focused on family. She did things with humility. By the time Boaz arrived, she was prepared. Ruth’s life glorified God. This is what we should all strive for during our Season of Singleness.
Rejoice always, Pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-22.