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Celebrate Your Season of Singleness

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

For some, being single is a lonely, desperate and sad way of living. That’s how I used to feel about being single. I have been divorced for seven years. But, it wasn’t until recently that I’ve accepted what it means to be single. Our culture tells us that we should be married. At minimum, we should have someone “special” in our lives. The world tends to see single people as lonely, desperate, broken, dysfunctional, or less than whole. We shouldn’t care what society thinks.

We do not dare to compare ourselves with those who use themselves to measure themselves and they judge themselves by what they themselves are. This shows that they know nothing.                  2 Corinthians 10:12

Our concern should be centered on what God wants for us.

Seek first God’s kingdom and what God wants. Then all your other needs will be met as well. Matthew 6:33

Our season of singleness is a beautiful gift from God. What God withholds from us can be our greatest gift. Only God knows when we are ready to meet our spouse that He has chosen for us. His timing is perfect.

But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

So, what are we to do while we wait?

Here is a list of some things to do while we are in our Season of Singleness.

  1. Learn Contentment    God will always give us what we need. We can focus on increasing our trust and broadening our knowledge that God knows what is best for us, that He is providing for us and that He is protecting us.
  2. Learn to Live     During our season of singleness we should use our free time and freedom from additional commitments to grow closer to God. Become planted in a church. Join a Bible study group. Serve others by finding somewhere to volunteer or ways to mentor others. Practice spiritual discipline by developing spiritual habits. These could include reading the Bible, making prayer a practice and learning to apply the character of Christ to our lives.
  3. Cultivate a Solid Support System     We need to develop good, strong friendships and learn to let go of toxic relationships. This is a great time to focus on family and getting to know our loved ones better.
  4. Learn Humility     Stop looking and reaching outside of yourself and start looking and reaching within yourself. Stop viewing everyone in the room as a possible candidate. For this leads to lust. Stop looking for those that may be interested in you. For this leads to being prideful. Start viewing people with the value they deserve as they too are created in God’s image. This leads to being respectful.
  5. Prepare Yourself     During your season of singleness, prepare yourself to be the best you that is possible. Begin exercising and develop better eating habits. Map out short and long term goals. Master your finances and budget. Take time to become more educated.
  6. Give all Glory to God     Acknowledge His greatness and give Him honor through praise and worship. Recognize His essence of glory. Listen to and agree with Him. Submit to Him and obey Him.

For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory forever. Amen. Romans 11:36

Being a woman, I have gotten caught up in “waiting for my Boaz”. I’ve caught myself wasting valuable resources searching for the “one”. This includes money, time, energy, thoughts and emotions. All single women should really study the book of Ruth. We should all strive to live our Season of Singleness as Ruth did. Her focus wasn’t on searching or seeking Boaz. Her focus was on glorifying God. She was content. She was living her life. She was focused on family. She did things with humility. By the time Boaz arrived, she was prepared. Ruth’s life glorified God. This is what we should all strive for during our Season of Singleness.

Rejoice always, Pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances.                                                1 Thessalonians 5:16-22.

 

 

Building a Prayer Life

Learning has always been difficult for me. My A.D.D. tendencies can derail a good idea, quickly. Things need to be organized and in their proper place. Reference points are needed to guide my thoughts. As I began meeting more and more people through my faith, I found it difficult to keep track of the prayer requests, or the Bible verses I wanted to study, or my own goals. I needed a way of simplifying my prayer life.

I believe that our prayer life is how we build our relationship with Jesus. This has become most important in my life…to build a strong relationship with Him.

So, I set out to learn how to build a fulfilling prayer life. The following is what I came up with.


We are commanded to pray.

Ephesians 6:18 (AMP)

Pray at all times (on every occasion, in every season) in the Spirit, with all [manner of] prayer and entreaty. To that end keep alert and watch with strong purpose and perseverance, interceding in behalf of all the saints (God’s consecrated people).

We are commanded to pray without fret or worry.

Philippeans 4:6 (AMP)

Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything by prayer and petition [definite requests], with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God.

We are commanded to never cease praying. To pray all the time and to do so earnestly.

1 Thessolonians 5:17 (AMP)

Be unceasing in prayer [praying perseveringly]

Colossians 4:2 (AMP)

Be earnest and unwearied and steadfast in your prayer [life], being [both] alert and intent in [your praying] with thanksgiving.

The Bible guides us and teaches us not to ramble or only pray by repeating memorized prayer. We are to be specific, with few words.

Matthew 6:7 (AMP)

And when you pray, do not heap up phrases (multiply words, repeating the same ones over and over as the Gentiles do, for they think they will be heard for their much speaking.

Ecclesiastes 5:2 (AMP)

Be not rush with your mouth, and let not your heart be hasty to utter a word before God. For God is in heaven, and you are on earth; therefore let your words be few.


My desire to learn how to pray led me to search for an organized way to strengthen my prayer life and my relationship with God. A prayer journal or a prayer notebook was just the answer. Using the creativity God gave me, I made my own prayer journal/notebook. Now you can make one too.

Step One

Photo 1 Photo 2 Photo 4

I purchased a photo album at the local Goodwill for $3.00.

Additionally, I purchased some scrapbook paper and stickers.

Anything will work. Colored paper; wrapping paper….or nothing at all.

Lastly, I purchased some colored index cards.

Again…this doesn’t need to be about expense or color or making the Prayer Book fancy. Plain paper or notebook paper works too.

I chose the photo album because I can move things around fairly easily. Others have used three ring binders. This gives them even more flexibility. A journal or composition book will work as well.


Step Two

My prayer book is divided into the following sections:

Photo Adoration          Adoration – Give God praise and honor for who he is.                

Photo Confession          Confession – Examine yourself before God and honestly deal      

                                                                                     with the sin in your life.

Photo Thanksgiving            Thanksgiving – Verbalize what you are thankful for.

Photo Supplication               Supplication – Pray for the needs of others and yourself.

Photo Proverbs 31               Proverbs 31 – Become a Godly woman.

There’s also a section for Goals and Books of the Bible.

Each section has multiple spaces for note cards. As I grow in my prayer life, I can add and subtract information in the Prayer Book. As I learn new Bible verses, I can add them to the sections where they apply.


Step Three

Start using your new Prayer Book. The Holy Spirit will assist you while you design, make or purchase your Prayer Book. As well, the Holy Spirit will be with you through your entire prayer process. No matter what that may be.

Romans 8:26 (AMP)

So too the [Holy] Spirit comes to our aid and bears us up in our weakness; for we do not know what prayer to offer nor how to offer it worthily as we ought, but the Spirit Himself goes to meet our supplication and pleads in our behalf with unspeakable yearnings and groanings too deep for utterance.

When Life Happens……Praise God!

It has been a long time since I logged into my blog. I haven’t published anything in months. I haven’t forgotten why I started this blog. I haven’t been lazy. Just the opposite actually. As this year dwindles down through the last quarter, I would like to reflect on the things God has done for me and my family this year.

The best lesson I learned this year is that Jesus wants to know me as an individual. He wants to be in a relationship with me. His relationship with me is the most important relationship I have and He has equipped me with all I need to survive this world.He has provided for all of us a breastplate and helmet. With full protection and knowledge we are better equipped to stand strong before the evil one (in general or specifically Satan). God’s Word provides us the readiness and firm foundation we need to fight against ‘flaming missiles’….spiritual attacks. Paul says it best in Ephesians.


Stand therefore [hold your ground], having tightened the belt of truth around your loins and having put on the breastplate of integrity and of moral rectitude and right standing with God, And having shod your feet in preparation [to face the enemy with the firm-footed stability, the promptness, and the readiness produced by the good news] of the Gospel of peace. Lift up over all the [covering] shield of saving faith, upon which you can quench all the flaming missiles of the wicked [one]. And take the helmet of salvation and the sword that the Spirit wields, which is the Word of God. Ephesians 6:14-17. (AMP)


An equally important lesson learned this year has been learning to truly be thankful. In all circumstances, regardless of the results. To be thankful and trusting that God’s will is sufficient.


Be happy [in your faith] and rejoice and be glad-hearted continually (always); Be unceasing in prayer [praying perseveringly]; Thank [God] in everything [no matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks], for this is the will of God for you [who are] in Christ Jesus [the Revealer and Mediator of that will]. 1Thess. 5:16-18. (AMP)


PRAYER: Heavenly Father, I am truly excited to be under your protection. As well, Lord, I am so very thankful for your guidance this past year. Lord, you know my struggles and weaknesses, and Lord, I thank you for walking along side me (often carrying me). Thank you, Lord for the wonderful people you have placed in my life to help me grow and serve in Christ. For the first time in my life, I truly look forward to tomorrow. Because I look so forward to learning more and more about You. In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, Amen!

I will try harder to love you all.

But, God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive with Christ ~ by grace you have been saved ~ Ephesians 2:4-5

One of the areas I have struggled with all my life is the ability to love all people. Don’t get me wrong, I love people….in general. When I do cross paths with someone that I don’t feel “love” for….I try to look at the person as God would. Sometimes, this is hardest accomplishments I can think of. I can help any person. I can extend forgiveness to anyone. I can pray for them and with them. I find it very difficult to love them.

God loves them. He loves them no more and no less than He loves me. Then I realize we can LOVE EVERYONE. We don’t have to love what they do or what they represent or how they behave. But, we can LOVE THEM.

Think of the good we can do if we love everyone. If it weren’t for God’s love, I wouldn’t be living a better life in Christ. If it weren’t for God’s love, I would still be looking for love in all the wrong places. If we are to love others as God has loves us……then our love will show others they can have a better life too. The goal would be to love others as God does, to show them what their life will be like, living in CHRIST.

 

Happy New Year – 2014

New Year’s Resolution Prayer:

Gracious God, thank you for your work of renewal in me. Thank you for the fact that I am new in Christ, having put off my old self and put on my new self. Thank you for the fact that you are at work in me, making me new from the inside out.

When I fall back into the ways of my old self, deliver me, Lord. Help me to choose to put off those ways. Ignite within me a desire for the new life, the life you offer in Christ. Continue, I pray, your work of renewing my inner being, so that I might be more and more like you.

All praise be to you, O God, Father, Son, and Spirit, because you are making all things new, including me! Amen.

Ephesians 4:22-24                                                     New Living Translation (NLT)

… throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. 23 Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. 24 Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.

taken from:  http://www.thehighcalling.org/reflection/happy-new-you#.UsR3frQWr3W

About one year ago, I gave my life back to Christ. In 2013, I truly learned how to live better in Christ and I have learned better listening skills with God. I have allowed the Holy Spirit to guide my faith and to lead me in understanding scripture and the voice of God. I wish the same to every one of you. It all starts when we acceptance that Jesus is our Savior and died for our sins. Your faith will grow rapidly through the Holy Spirit. You will soon see the miracles that God lovingly has in store for you.

Happy New Year!!!!

GOD is Good

So… I found out yesterday that about 50 of us are losing our jobs.  The jobs are moving from Fort Wayne, IN to Rochester NY. Over the last 6 months, I have been preparing my teen age girls about this real possibility…. That my job may move nearly ten hours away from our immediate family. Now the day has come. The true test of Faith.
 
Over the last two years, God has shown me a path that has prepared me for this major, life changing, move. Some amazing things have happened.
 
Almost two years ago, I moved to a small town of 1100 people, averaging 40 miles from my immediate family….all for a guy. Quickly, I started getting messages that I wasn’t where I was suppose to be. The guy moved out and I started listening to God more than just talking ‘to’ Him. Amazingly things began to happen in my life.
 
I am at peace with living alone. I have no desire to share my life with just anyone. The Holy Spirit has shown me that I can bury Gods love so far in my heart that for any man to find it (my heart)…he better know how to seek Jesus first. I am okay with being away from my family. This short distance has been a small test. I have had to learn to make time with my mom and with my dad. I have had to make time to call them and keep in contact with them from a (small) distance. I am so thankful that God has prepared me and my children for what could have been devastating. What would have been devastating before I allowed the Holy Spirit back into my heart.
 

Additionally……it doesn’t stop there. While it has become known to my coworkers that I have made the decision to move to Rochester NY. Some of the younger coworkers have found comfort in that. While they are taking a huge leap of faith to move into some really amazing opportunities while they are young and ambitious for growth in their careers, they have shared with me they have found comfort through the positive outlook that my God pours out of me. I was also told my a close co-worker (one that is not able to move away and will soon be seeking employment) that she ‘needs’ my positive outlook and appreciates that I share it with everyone.  And, she asked me to continue to minister to her in this time of the unknown for her.

What a wonderful way to witness God’s love. If for no other way than to live my life in a manner that those who know Jesus can witness my ministry and those who don’t know Jesus will learn through me.

Ok… grab a tissue. I know I need one.

GOD is Good!