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No Matter Where You Go….You Take Yourself With You!

James 3:16  For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every evil practice.  

For many years I spent my time and energy coveting what others had achieved.

Instead of trying harder, I spent more energy feeling slighted that others were smarter than me.

Instead of cherishing the relationship I had with my parents, I resented their attempts to provide for me and love me.

Instead of recognizing intimate relationships required constant effort and compromise, I was ungrateful of any attempts made on their part.

Instead of focusing on my ability to be a valued employee, I was convinced that I was not being treated fairly or respected.

Instead of cultivating strong friendships, I walked away at the first unpleasant feeling or truth.

Instead of balancing my finances, I was bitter towards others who had nicer cars, bigger houses, more money, or better jobs.

Over many years, I spent so much time quitting colleges, seeking surrogate parent figures, going through divorce, changing jobs, and walking away from friendships. It didn’t matter what I did to try and satisfy my feelings of loss and inadequacy. No matter where I went, I took myself with me.

Hebrews 13:5  Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for He has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Once I turned my life back over to Christ and started living my life “with” Him again, all my desires for MORE were gone. My struggle was no longer searching for happiness through my own experiences or circumstances. I was again thankful for what God has provided for me. A great desire to be content in all areas of my life came over me. Not only in the good times, but as well and more so in the bad times. Relief is found in trusting that God is in control.

Proverbs 14:30  A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.

Being content glorifies God.

2 Corinthians 9:15  Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!

There are so many things to be thankful for. My family is healthy. We have everything we need. We truly want for nothing.

Philippians 4:11  I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 

No Matter Where You Go, You Take Yourself With You! But when we are living “with” Christ we will end up exactly where we are supposed to be. Taking on the new self and putting off the old.

Matthew 6:21  For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

 

Celebrate Your Season of Singleness

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

For some, being single is a lonely, desperate and sad way of living. That’s how I used to feel about being single. I have been divorced for seven years. But, it wasn’t until recently that I’ve accepted what it means to be single. Our culture tells us that we should be married. At minimum, we should have someone “special” in our lives. The world tends to see single people as lonely, desperate, broken, dysfunctional, or less than whole. We shouldn’t care what society thinks.

We do not dare to compare ourselves with those who use themselves to measure themselves and they judge themselves by what they themselves are. This shows that they know nothing.                  2 Corinthians 10:12

Our concern should be centered on what God wants for us.

Seek first God’s kingdom and what God wants. Then all your other needs will be met as well. Matthew 6:33

Our season of singleness is a beautiful gift from God. What God withholds from us can be our greatest gift. Only God knows when we are ready to meet our spouse that He has chosen for us. His timing is perfect.

But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

So, what are we to do while we wait?

Here is a list of some things to do while we are in our Season of Singleness.

  1. Learn Contentment    God will always give us what we need. We can focus on increasing our trust and broadening our knowledge that God knows what is best for us, that He is providing for us and that He is protecting us.
  2. Learn to Live     During our season of singleness we should use our free time and freedom from additional commitments to grow closer to God. Become planted in a church. Join a Bible study group. Serve others by finding somewhere to volunteer or ways to mentor others. Practice spiritual discipline by developing spiritual habits. These could include reading the Bible, making prayer a practice and learning to apply the character of Christ to our lives.
  3. Cultivate a Solid Support System     We need to develop good, strong friendships and learn to let go of toxic relationships. This is a great time to focus on family and getting to know our loved ones better.
  4. Learn Humility     Stop looking and reaching outside of yourself and start looking and reaching within yourself. Stop viewing everyone in the room as a possible candidate. For this leads to lust. Stop looking for those that may be interested in you. For this leads to being prideful. Start viewing people with the value they deserve as they too are created in God’s image. This leads to being respectful.
  5. Prepare Yourself     During your season of singleness, prepare yourself to be the best you that is possible. Begin exercising and develop better eating habits. Map out short and long term goals. Master your finances and budget. Take time to become more educated.
  6. Give all Glory to God     Acknowledge His greatness and give Him honor through praise and worship. Recognize His essence of glory. Listen to and agree with Him. Submit to Him and obey Him.

For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory forever. Amen. Romans 11:36

Being a woman, I have gotten caught up in “waiting for my Boaz”. I’ve caught myself wasting valuable resources searching for the “one”. This includes money, time, energy, thoughts and emotions. All single women should really study the book of Ruth. We should all strive to live our Season of Singleness as Ruth did. Her focus wasn’t on searching or seeking Boaz. Her focus was on glorifying God. She was content. She was living her life. She was focused on family. She did things with humility. By the time Boaz arrived, she was prepared. Ruth’s life glorified God. This is what we should all strive for during our Season of Singleness.

Rejoice always, Pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances.                                                1 Thessalonians 5:16-22.

 

 

GOD is Good

So… I found out yesterday that about 50 of us are losing our jobs.  The jobs are moving from Fort Wayne, IN to Rochester NY. Over the last 6 months, I have been preparing my teen age girls about this real possibility…. That my job may move nearly ten hours away from our immediate family. Now the day has come. The true test of Faith.
 
Over the last two years, God has shown me a path that has prepared me for this major, life changing, move. Some amazing things have happened.
 
Almost two years ago, I moved to a small town of 1100 people, averaging 40 miles from my immediate family….all for a guy. Quickly, I started getting messages that I wasn’t where I was suppose to be. The guy moved out and I started listening to God more than just talking ‘to’ Him. Amazingly things began to happen in my life.
 
I am at peace with living alone. I have no desire to share my life with just anyone. The Holy Spirit has shown me that I can bury Gods love so far in my heart that for any man to find it (my heart)…he better know how to seek Jesus first. I am okay with being away from my family. This short distance has been a small test. I have had to learn to make time with my mom and with my dad. I have had to make time to call them and keep in contact with them from a (small) distance. I am so thankful that God has prepared me and my children for what could have been devastating. What would have been devastating before I allowed the Holy Spirit back into my heart.
 

Additionally……it doesn’t stop there. While it has become known to my coworkers that I have made the decision to move to Rochester NY. Some of the younger coworkers have found comfort in that. While they are taking a huge leap of faith to move into some really amazing opportunities while they are young and ambitious for growth in their careers, they have shared with me they have found comfort through the positive outlook that my God pours out of me. I was also told my a close co-worker (one that is not able to move away and will soon be seeking employment) that she ‘needs’ my positive outlook and appreciates that I share it with everyone.  And, she asked me to continue to minister to her in this time of the unknown for her.

What a wonderful way to witness God’s love. If for no other way than to live my life in a manner that those who know Jesus can witness my ministry and those who don’t know Jesus will learn through me.

Ok… grab a tissue. I know I need one.

GOD is Good!