Tag Archive | Self-Control

Building a Prayer Life

Learning has always been difficult for me. My A.D.D. tendencies can derail a good idea, quickly. Things need to be organized and in their proper place. Reference points are needed to guide my thoughts. As I began meeting more and more people through my faith, I found it difficult to keep track of the prayer requests, or the Bible verses I wanted to study, or my own goals. I needed a way of simplifying my prayer life.

I believe that our prayer life is how we build our relationship with Jesus. This has become most important in my life…to build a strong relationship with Him.

So, I set out to learn how to build a fulfilling prayer life. The following is what I came up with.


We are commanded to pray.

Ephesians 6:18 (AMP)

Pray at all times (on every occasion, in every season) in the Spirit, with all [manner of] prayer and entreaty. To that end keep alert and watch with strong purpose and perseverance, interceding in behalf of all the saints (God’s consecrated people).

We are commanded to pray without fret or worry.

Philippeans 4:6 (AMP)

Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything by prayer and petition [definite requests], with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God.

We are commanded to never cease praying. To pray all the time and to do so earnestly.

1 Thessolonians 5:17 (AMP)

Be unceasing in prayer [praying perseveringly]

Colossians 4:2 (AMP)

Be earnest and unwearied and steadfast in your prayer [life], being [both] alert and intent in [your praying] with thanksgiving.

The Bible guides us and teaches us not to ramble or only pray by repeating memorized prayer. We are to be specific, with few words.

Matthew 6:7 (AMP)

And when you pray, do not heap up phrases (multiply words, repeating the same ones over and over as the Gentiles do, for they think they will be heard for their much speaking.

Ecclesiastes 5:2 (AMP)

Be not rush with your mouth, and let not your heart be hasty to utter a word before God. For God is in heaven, and you are on earth; therefore let your words be few.


My desire to learn how to pray led me to search for an organized way to strengthen my prayer life and my relationship with God. A prayer journal or a prayer notebook was just the answer. Using the creativity God gave me, I made my own prayer journal/notebook. Now you can make one too.

Step One

Photo 1 Photo 2 Photo 4

I purchased a photo album at the local Goodwill for $3.00.

Additionally, I purchased some scrapbook paper and stickers.

Anything will work. Colored paper; wrapping paper….or nothing at all.

Lastly, I purchased some colored index cards.

Again…this doesn’t need to be about expense or color or making the Prayer Book fancy. Plain paper or notebook paper works too.

I chose the photo album because I can move things around fairly easily. Others have used three ring binders. This gives them even more flexibility. A journal or composition book will work as well.


Step Two

My prayer book is divided into the following sections:

Photo Adoration          Adoration – Give God praise and honor for who he is.                

Photo Confession          Confession – Examine yourself before God and honestly deal      

                                                                                     with the sin in your life.

Photo Thanksgiving            Thanksgiving – Verbalize what you are thankful for.

Photo Supplication               Supplication – Pray for the needs of others and yourself.

Photo Proverbs 31               Proverbs 31 – Become a Godly woman.

There’s also a section for Goals and Books of the Bible.

Each section has multiple spaces for note cards. As I grow in my prayer life, I can add and subtract information in the Prayer Book. As I learn new Bible verses, I can add them to the sections where they apply.


Step Three

Start using your new Prayer Book. The Holy Spirit will assist you while you design, make or purchase your Prayer Book. As well, the Holy Spirit will be with you through your entire prayer process. No matter what that may be.

Romans 8:26 (AMP)

So too the [Holy] Spirit comes to our aid and bears us up in our weakness; for we do not know what prayer to offer nor how to offer it worthily as we ought, but the Spirit Himself goes to meet our supplication and pleads in our behalf with unspeakable yearnings and groanings too deep for utterance.

Disciplined Freedom ~ Ahhhh….Get it?!

Today, I learned something that I wish I would have learned many years ago. Discipline is Freedom. Makes perfect sense…right?

My pastor has been preaching about Freedom this summer. How God gives us Freedom. Pastor’s emphasis has been on what we have Freedom To…. That in itself has made me do a lot of thinking this summer. We have the Freedom to Love. The Freedom to Serve. The Freedom to Forgive. We are Free to live a glorious life In Christ.

We also have the Freedom to be disciplined. What? That sounds like a lot of work. And it will be. We are Free to ask for help. We can ask God to take our pain away. We can ask God to heal our sisters and brothers. We can ask God to do anything. Everything is in His power. But some things will require Disciplined Freedom.

I have been praying that God would make me Healthy. I have been praying that my life be full of Happiness. Our Father can make these things happen. But, sometimes we have to do things for ourselves. (Philippians 4:13) I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Ahhhhhhh….get it? God will help me live a healthy, happy life. We have the freedom to be Disciplined enough to live our life in a healthy way, bringing happiness to our lives. (2 Timothy 1:7) ..for God gave us a Spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. (Proverbs 25:28) A man (woman) without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. Ahhhhh…Get it? We have to be Disciplined to be Free.

Right now, my health is anything but good. I have found great comfort and happiness living a better life In Christ. I attend Church and worship with a wonderful congregation. I have an open relationship with God. But I am still unhealthy. No matter how hard I pray, I will continue to be unhealthy. Not because God doesn’t want me to be healthy. But, because He has asked me to be disciplined with my Freedom.

I get that we are not free to sin, just because Jesus loves us. Believing that Jesus died for our sins and has paid the ultimate price for our salvation is Freedom. Believing that our sins are forgiven is Freedom. We are not free to sin and take advantage of God’s forgiveness and freedom. We are commanded to be in control and to practice discipline within our lives. Through God’s strength, I can be more disciplined to exercise and to eat better. I have the Freedom to ask God to walk with me while I change my habits and become better disciplined in this area of my life. I will ask God to help me change my desires. To help me desire a healthy lifestyle. Where God can make many things happen, many other things require self-control and discipline….on our part. This is our Freedom To…..be disciplined and maintain self-control. Ultimately, taking advantage of our Freedom to be Healthy and Happy. Ahhhh…..Get it?!!!!